Midday blog: Back to School & Empty Nest
It’s the beginning of the school year and I keep seeing Facebook posts from moms. Check these out and see if any of these reflect your spoken or unspoken thoughts:
“What a perfect last-day-of-summer this is! But tomorrow–with its 7+ child-free hours-is gonna feel pretty perfect too.”
“School. Starts. Wednesday. (Cue delicious sigh here.)”
“Wow, the house is quiet!”
“another school year…another senior…another high schooler…another driver…another year of college…..wow…I’m so glad that my God is unchanging!”
“Tomorrow, after I drop the boys off at school, I’m going to have a complete thought. Maybe two.”
Another friend private messaged me on FB after dropping her daughter at college and asked, “Have you done a show on parental adjustment after kids go to college? :p I could sure use it.”
I told her I was going to blog about it, but it wouldn’t be anything new.
My son drove from Chicago to Gettysburg for the start of his Junior year of college. He drove 700 miles by himself with all his earthly belonging. Had this been his freshman year I’d have been right there with him. But his level of independence has changed……dramatically. I’ve found with each year of college I’ve gotten a little sadder, shed a few more tears. I was a “7+ child-free hours is gonna feel pretty perfect” kind of mom. I couldn’t wait for John to go to school all day. And now I get weepy thinking about his life, his future and his college graduation. In a good way. Mostly.
One word to the wise. Develop yourself now. It is not selfish for mom to have her own interests, her own hobbies, and her own group of friends that she goes out with. When the focus is solely on the kids and the day arrives when Sally or Billy head off to college it can be extremely difficult. Knowing how God wired our children and helping them find their way is really important. Knowing yourself and how God wired you…..equally important.
What’s one way you are developing life outside your children?
OK, I’ll start…..I’m doing some painting and craft work……..
Ok, it’s your turn…
Anita Lustrea is a graduate of Moody Bible Institute and has worked for Moody Radio since 1984. She is a sought-after conference and retreat speaker and loves to connect with Midday Connection listeners face-to-face. Anita lives in the Chicago suburbs with her husband, Mike, and her son, John. To learn more about Anita, her speaking schedule and her blog, please visit her website.